When thinking about 'domestic abuse' people tend to talk about ‘relationships’. A relationship can be many things:
- between a parent and child
- between a child and grandparent
- between brother and sister
- between a husband and wife
- between girlfriend and boyfriend
- between girlfriend and girlfriend
- between boyfriend and boyfriend
- between friends
One important thing to know about abuse is that it can happen to anyone, of any age, male or female, people who have very good jobs and people who don’t work.
If it’s happening to you it isn’t your fault and you are not to blame. If it’s happening to someone you love or just know, it’s not their fault and they are not to blame either.
Abuse is about a person needing to have power and control over someone else and doing whatever they have to in order to gain that control, usually by way of emotional hurt or physical pain.
If you are under 16 years of age and are experiencing abuse from a family member, boyfriend or girlfriend or family friend, this is known as child abuse. If you are 16 or over and are experiencing abuse from a family member, boyfriend or girlfriend, this is called domestic abuse.
Who can help
- Young Person’s Violence Advisor
- Your school nurse
- Your social worker (if you have one)
- Your doctor
You can find more help in the Directory.
If you think you are in danger please contact the police in an emergency on telephone 999. You can also contact the police on telephone 101 at other times.